That four letter word.

Love.

 It's a four letter word with a meaning that's lager than life.

There have been crimes committed in it's name.

It can make a person complete and tare them completely apart.

It's probably the strongest weapon on this earth.

My question is, why do so many people take it for granted?

No one stays together anymore. When the going gets tough it's easier to run away than to work it out. So many people want to jump into a marriage after only being together for 30 seconds and then wonder why 3 months later they are signing divorce papers. Of course it's easy to love someone in the beginning. Things are good then and you get a long fine. Getting married when you only know half the person is never a good idea. Marriage should be reserved for when you know the flaws of your partner and can still look at them with love and see the good. This is why we're suppose to date and get engaged. If we want to marry someone we don't know we should just adapt a culture where we have prearranged marriages. At least that way we'd have someone to blame other than ourselves if the marriage were to fall apart. 

Patience.

Faith.

Trust.

Communication.

Understanding.

 Love.

These are the essentials to making a relationship work.

I would like to explain why I believe with out these things a relationship will eventually fail.


Patience:: To me this means learning to work through problems WITH your partner. Learning sometimes you have to let him/her come to you when they are ready to talk. To learn this, it takes time. One of the many reasons why jumping into a marriage is not a good idea.


Faith:: is the confident belief or trust in the truth or trustworthiness of a person. To truly believe in someone or trust them means knowing them.


Trust:: reliance on another person. How can we rely on someone we don't know?


Communication:: To me this is only second to the most important thing. I think that sometimes a problem can be fixed with a conversation and with being open and honest about how you feel and what you need to get passed what ever the issue may be. SO many relationships end because one or both were to angry or stubborn to just talk.


Understanding:: I know this is hard for a lot of people. I know it is defiantly one of my problem areas. I think understanding or trying to understand where your partner is coming from or how they feel about a certian situation could help the communication part of a relationship a lot. An understanding of a persons past and some insecurities can go a long way as well.

Love:: I don't think that this one needs any explaining.

It just seems like "till death do us part" is turning into "until we can't stand each other any more". It's infuriating how what used to be an important commitment is being turned into some kind of joke. I guess my whole point is, get to know the one you're with instead of jumping right into a marriage. If you feel like you want to marry the person after 3 months why not wait a year to see if you still feel the same way? To make sure this is the person you want to fight your battles with. The person you'd trust with your children. If you truly love the person wait. It'll be worth it and save on the heart break and price of a divorce.